Hi? Remember me? I know….it’s been so long. I keep re-reading old blogs of mine with sweet memories of the boys and things I had forgotten and it reminds me why I wanted to keep this blog in the first place. It’s the only place I’ve done a good job of writing down memories. No baby books or calendars or anything else. Just these words here. So I’m going to TRY and keep up with it better this coming year.
But let’s recap why these last five months have been so crazy and unusual (although isn’t life always?). Back in April, Jax had his one year pediatrician’s appointment. He had super high levels of lead in his body. That led to a quick move out of the only home our boys had known, problems with our landlord, and the #homelesstour2016 (which is basically still going. I know). We bounced around for two weeks and then moved in with my parents. At the time, I thought it would be for two to four weeks while we found a place to live. Spoiler alert: it’s been four and a half months. (Sorry mom and dad). In other words, this has become my mantra:
However, back at the end of August, we went into escrow on our first own itty-bitty condo. Escrow closed at the end of September (after Brandon left me for two weeks with two sick, busy boys), and we started working on it. And by we, I mean Brandon. There was a lot to do to make it live in ready. We assumed we’d be in by mid-October. But you know how these things go. It’s a six unit building and our neighbors, who make up the HOA, decided they didn’t like some of what we were doing and turned us in for some permitting stuff and long story short, it’s been one thing after and another and we STILL aren’t living there. We are working on getting permits for a couple things, but it’s looking like we are going to need to move in as-is during the waiting time, which means we will be moving into what’s currently a one-bedroom place. But let’s be real, the boys are usually in our bed anyways, so who needs two bedrooms??
Throw in some cardiologist appointments for Jax, a new heart murmur, renovations, Brandon’s grandma dying, a few trips, and it has been a busy/stressful/hard season. I still feel like I don’t quite have my feet underneath me. Not to mention my boots, because when we packed for my parents’ house, we packed one bag of summer clothes, not expecting to need anything more. However it’s now November, cooling down, and I have no idea where my sweaters and closed-toe shoes are. Probably in a box in Brandon’s brothers’ garage, which flooded in the rain, and ruined a lot of our stuff. Dear Lord.
But, even with all that, there have been so many sweet things in this season too. My brother and Jeni welcomed their first little girl, Junia, who we got to live with at my parents’ house for a few weeks. We have gotten a lot of great family time, late nights chatting, early morning breakfasts and book reading parties.
Both boys are in a book-reading phase right now. We go to the library every week, get close to 20 books each time, and then read them all in one sitting, and then over and over again. Jax especially can’t get enough. I love it until about the fourth time through on any given book.
My friend and I are homeschooling preschool for Kelton and his little friend. We do it twice a week, and it’s been sweet and fun for all of us. Although, if I’m being honest, it’s only two months in and I *might* be tired of lesson planning/prepping already.
We’ve started a new tradition of saying our highs and lows every night and it’s one of Kelton’s favorite things. If we forget to do it, he will wake up in the middle of the night and ask for it. His lows usually involve something he didn’t get to do or buy or watch. And his highs are often getting to see friends or hang out with mom and dad.
Jax has been a HANDFUL lately. We are afraid to say no to him. He can throw the longest, angriest tantrums and I don’t feel like I have the distraction factor going for me like I did with Kelton. He was fairly easy to redirect in dire moments, like a grocery store meltdown. Jax, not so much.
But he’s also so much fun. He’s saying a handful of words, but his favorite are cheese, boo (book), Da, Mama, mi (milk), mo (more), NO, and Uh Oh. He’s FINALLY night weaned. Thank the dear Lord. And maybe sleeping a tiny bit better since. Fingers crossed that it starts to make more of a difference soon.
While Kelton and Jax definitely fight over toys and space, they mostly enjoy each other. Jax wants to do everything that his big brother does, and so far, Kelton finds this wonderful and hilarious.
And so here we are. Thanksgiving is tomorrow, Christmas is around the corner, and life doesn’t always stop for us to catch a breath. It’s what I love and hate about it. So in the spirit of sanity, here are some things that I’m loving right now:
- The Chief Inspector Gamache novels by Louise Penny. There are 12 in the series and they are crime fiction. But not scary, gruseome crime, because I can’t do those. More “who did it and why” kind of crime. They are so good. I’m on the fifth one right now.
- The Popcast podcast. Knox and Jamie chat/duel back and forth on pop culture issues. There’s no politics or heavy discussions. It’s all light and funny and I LOVE listening to them banter back and forth. (They also get me through LONG bedtimes with Jax).
- Exercising. I feel so strange writing that. I’ve exercised a lot in different seasons of my life, but after Kelton was born that came to a BIG halt. I still did it sporadically but never consistently and never pushing myself. And I’ve never been one to enjoy exercising. I’ve always done it because I should. But the other day I was in a body pump class, and I was doing my one millionth squat with the barbell on my shoulders and I was hating it, but at the same time, for the first time in maybe ever, I felt strong. I felt like I was helping my body and heart and mind, and it wasn’t about losing weight or toning or anything except feeling strong.
- I mentioned this already, but reading with my boys. It’s such a nice way for us to connect, I like to read, and it’s fun to find new books at the library each week. Plus, then they are still.
- Christmas music and decorations. I’m a sucker. I love it all.
And now it’s time to go check on my chocolate pie and prep for a big day tomorrow.
Wishing you turkey, hot cider, and neutral dinner conversations.